I related to more of this than I expected to as an aro-ace person who also has a vagina. It has been hard to get it through people's heads that my sex life has been non-existent for several years now, I only ever had one partner, and that I don't need to keep repeating the same tests. When I was first recommended pelvic floor therapy, the goal of "getting a penis in", rather than having more comfortable pap smears and tampon usage seemed to be imposed on me. I've also shocked a few people with my answer as to who I sleep with when I say "neither".